I'm Not Afraid To Say It, "We Are a 10"
I don’t believe in coincidences - Everything that we are experiencing has been divinely orchestrated. Similarly, I believe that when a seed is planted in your mind and/or heart, it is important to act upon it because God has assigned a specific length of time for the full blessing to manifest. For my husband and I that length of time has consistently been some version of the number 10 (i.e. the tenth day, ten months, ten years)!
When we stopped to pay attention to our lives and relationship, we found uncanny patterns running through the cords that bind us. The number 10 continuously showed up as a time of change, fulfillment of dreams, and overall newness. I did a little research to learn what the number ten means spiritually, and I was surprised to find out that the number ten signifies completion. With this revelation, I had THE biggest aha! moment as so many of our memories that include the number 10 reflect times in our lives when we saw signs of completion which is merely the other side of a beginning.
As I compiled my list, I could only think of ten instances to share with you all. Enjoy them!
We are 10 years apart in age. He was born in 1969 and I was born in 1979.
Dexter graduated high school in 1987 and I graduated from the same high school ten years later in 1997.
2002 was the year I met him in NJ and ten years after he had made significant life changes to provide a better life for his son back in 1992. During these ten years, he left Rutgers University; moved back home to St. Thomas; joined the military; moved back to NJ to complete his degree; started his career as a mechanical engineer; and eventually met me.
My daughter was born on the tenth day of September in 2000.
When I met Dexter’s son, D’Shai, he was 10 years old.
Our one year Wedding Anniversary was celebrated in 2009. This was 10 years after I moved to New Jersey in 1999 as a college dropout with no plan, no money, no job, and shortly after I became a single parent. My life literally made a complete 360 change in 10 years.
In 2010, D’Shai graduated from high school and attended Stanford University. This was a prideful moment for my husband and a reflection of his dedication as a father. It also signified the end of a chapter: his boy child was now a man.
In 2010 we finally visited St. Thomas (AKA Home) together. This gave us an opportunity to meet additional family on both sides who played significant roles in our lives respectively.
In 2013 I earned my Bachelor's degree after ten years of being a part-time student. I fulfilled what felt like a life-long dream and goal of becoming a teacher. I interviewed for one teaching job mid-school year (in December) and got hired before officially graduating or becoming licensed.
In 2018 we became empty nesters after celebrating 10 years of marriage. As our daughter left the nest, we were filled with joy and happiness for us and her. Raising our daughter together in a blended family had come to a very successful end and we were overwhelmed with gratitude.
Needless to say, we are a 10! The Roman Numeral for the number 10 is an X which means that our union was predestined to be eXtraordinary! (That’s my story and I’m sticking to it Hahahaha) The moments above were some very powerful and defining moments in both of our lives, and with every “ten mark” we have been blessed or rewarded in an eXtra special way. No relationship is perfect and neither is ours, but we’ve always felt like there was something eXtraordinary and purposeful about our union because together we feel completely complimented. When people learn that our family is a blended one, they’re surprised because the synergy is pervasive. I’m a firm believer that we are blessed to be a blessing and while DeXter and I have individual assignments on our lives, we also have assignments to complete as a married couple/team. Understanding that our blessings come via some form of the number 10 creates anticipation and excitement for the future. We don’t think about it on a daily basis, so you can imagine our surprise when we learned on the tenth day of the tenth month that our Son will be married to his best friend on 10/10/20! The Hendricks family is growing and we are beyond excited!! Apparently, the cycle continues...
In any of your relationships, is there a number of significance for you? I would love to hear about it!